Another lesson learnt

Well it's only been three weeks in the job and I'm already jumping big hurdles. My learning curve has just gone way up. Lesson 1 - Don't try to be too nice and fix your clients. My client that I mentioned earlier, with whom I had the intense visit with has now developed an unhealthy attachment with me. When he first told me I was like "Shi*, this can not be happening to me". I didn't know how to react, I didn't want to be too understanding as that is what got me in this mess in the first place. So I put on my sternest face and reminded him why I was there and how our visits were going to help his case. After I left I couldn't stop going through my previous visits with him (all two of them) and trying to figure out if it was anything that I had done to make him think like this. The first thing I did was call my attorney and I was like "Robert what do I do?" he thought it best to cut down on the personal visits. I don't mind telling you that I thought I'd failed. I know in my head that it was the right thing to do, but I had made this guy feel like he could trust me and open up to me and then I become ANOTHER woman to let him down.

Without going into detail about this person he has had a terrible time in his life and carries so much insecurity and fear, you can't help want to save him. I should have realised sooner that this was way out of my league and stepped back but my damn pride stopped me, thinking that I could deal with this. Maybe I'm making a bigger deal of it this it really is (I have a tendency to do that) but it just felt a bit crappy that's all.